…my last 6 months in 2020

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That feeling of being mute and numb to everything going on around you is what I felt in the last six months- unable to do certain things that were part of my everyday life. I guess the adverse effects of the events that 2020 began with caught up with me, and I was just unable to get myself to do certain things such as writing- something that is a pure catharsis for me, which is one of the few reasons why I have not posted a thing since July 2020. …


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If there’s anything this covidic period has done, it’s either made you fatter or you’ve stayed the same. And if you managed to lose weight, kudos to you- your self-discipline game is strong. With the gyms closed, I have not been physically active (AT ALL), and although I attempted the online workout sessions, I did not like them, so one way I have tried to maintain a semblance of healthiness has been to eat more healthily.

Before COVID leashed, I was quite a disciplined eater, eating more of the healthy stuff than the unhealthy, and my main reason for eating…


“Vulnerability is the only authentic state. Being vulnerable means being open, for wounding, but also pleasure. Being open to the wounds of life means also being open to the bounty and beauty. Don’t mask or deny your vulnerability: it is your greatest asset. Be vulnerable: quake and shake in your boots with it. The new goodness that is coming to you, in the form of people, situations, and things can only come to you when you are vulnerable, i.e. open”. — Stephen Russel

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The world judges harshly, ‘world’ here being me, you, your partner, your kids, your parents, siblings, our…


“Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it” (the words of Eliza Tabor- the novelist).

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I know a thing or two about being disappointed- been there, done that, got the T-shirt, as I’m sure you have too. Being disappointed is one of those things that are not unique to a specific person because we’ve all been there, and the funny thing is that no matter how many disappointments you’ve faced, you are never quite ready for the next disappointing event.

If you’ve had your fair share of…


…at some point it will.

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As much as happiness seems to be on short supply in the world right now, especially with the COVID-19 pandemic, as well as the countless gloomy and morbid commentaries on how we should be living during this time, the truth is we still need to trudge along- even if slowly and without that spring in our step. This period has been a stressful time for all of us, and it’s been hard to see the silver on the cloud linings, but we need to make an effort to see the sun’s rays. …


Take a step back…

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For someone who is living out her 41st year of existence, I believe I have something to say about this. Societal expectations, peer pressure, the need to live life on a linear and logical path are some of the factors that place pressure on us as individuals. It is ‘expected’ that at a certain age or phase of life, you should have settled down aka married, have a few kids, stashed enough money away for the future, bought a house, be upwardly mobile career wise and just have it all together. …


In the quest to being more attuned…

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I love poems, especially when they are musings about life. It is the way words are captured and expressed so poignantly that makes me a fan of poems.

I shared The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer on my blog last year, as the poem had a profound impact on me- her writing was one of the main triggers behind my intent to being more vulnerable every single day. …


Because it’s the little things that make the difference

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Happy New Year my friend. Welcome to 2020- the year that has been touted as the one where dreams will come true, where stars will align, and achievements will abound. I hope the past 18 days have been good to you and you are excited to rock n roll.

I am excited about this year, as I have often been about the years before this, simply because a new year presents opportunities for reinventing one’s self, advancement, progress, new experiences and changes. Without trying to be a grinch, a new year…


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Oh my! I’ve got a lot of things going on in my head at this moment and I’m typing this post asking myself, where do I start, which of these ponderings do I share with you? Eventually, I’m settling on sharing some incredible insights I got this year- the ones that were profound for me. Although I am somewhat jaded at this time of the year, it’s hard to not reflect on the past 12 months and consider how the new year will be lived. It is a new decade people! …


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My childhood background

Growing up as a teenager, my family attended an Anglican Church and one of the religious rites was to take Holy Communion. But to do that, I had to be ‘confirmed’ by a Vicar/Bishop first (a coming of age type of thing)- a ceremonial event that takes place in front of the entire church congregation. So in preparation for this, I attended rehearsal classes with other kids who needed to be confirmed, weeks before the big event. …

Eniola Waide

Fancies tea, certified bookworm, green smoothie lover, loves to sleep, writes essays about life’s challenges on www.allthingsgoingsouth.com

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